Fingers & Spoons: The Ins and Outs of an Open Marriage

Fingers and Spoons: The Ins & Outs of an Open Marriage, at the SOHO Playhouse. Courtesy
Fingers and Spoons: The Ins & Outs of an Open Marriage, at the SOHO Playhouse. Courtesy

NEW YORK – Fingers & Spoons: The Ins and Outs of an Open Marriage

Writer and actor Pascale Roger-McKeever presented a provocative exploration of rebellion, growth, and sexual awakening through the eyes of its protagonist in a one-person show. This mid-40s suburban mom reluctantly stepped beyond the traditional boundaries of marriage at her husband’s request. The piercing, raw narrative delved into her complex web of emotions through trauma and the societal expectations that she challenged with surprising cheek.

This character’s journey was a blend of comedy and drama, poking fun at the often-unspoken duplicities of social norms as she did “whatever it takes to be herself” while also challenging the real doubts and conflicts that accompany such an extreme metamorphosis. She discovered, “You can’t ignore the person you’ve grown into.”

Roger-McKeever’s assimilation of Sophocles’ ancient Greek tragedy Antigone into this modern narrative added a rich layer of classical context to the play. Just as Antigone challenged the edicts of her time, our modern protagonist confronted the unwritten laws of marital fidelity and societal norms. The character’s journey of lone rebellion reverberated in Antigone’s moral and existential struggle, revealing the writer’s inspired strain, “…the whole sky has fallen on [me], and all [I] can do about it is shout.” (Antigone by Jean Anouilh).

The protagonist of our story defied the conventional construct of marriage to honor a more profound personal truth. Much like Antigone’s, her actions honored human resilience and the pursuit of individual agency within the limitations imposed by societal expectations.

Pascale Roger-McKeever. Courtesy

Pascale Roger-McKeever. Courtesy

The play juxtaposed the ancient and the modern, suggesting perhaps that core human conflicts remain constant through time. The protagonist’s ultimate judgment to depart from her husband and take her child into a new life mirrored Antigone’s unwavering commitment to her beliefs despite dire consequences. It’s a testament to an individual’s timeless struggle to resolve their desires within societal constructs. This thematic resonance added depth to the play, inviting the audience to reflect on the perpetual nature of our pursuits for independence and authenticity.

The performance was nuanced, as Roger-McKeever displayed a range of emotions that speaks to the heart of anyone who has ever questioned their place or meaning in the world. As she confronted the excitement, freedom, and chaos of her new lifestyle, we saw her grapple with the meaning of happiness, loyalty, and self-fulfillment. Ultimately, her decision to leave her husband with her child in tow was a poignant finale about her personal growth and search for authenticity.

The play’s candid take on adult themes was both a strength and a dormant limit for its audience—best suited for those who value theater that defies social norms and welcomes arcane introspection. However, its droll and earnest moments ensure that it remains accessible and appealing.

Fingers & Spoons: The Ins and Outs of an Open Marriage is a must-see experience that shamelessly explores sexual freedom and personal growth through non-traditional nuptial boundaries in an amalgam of comedy and drama. It challenges societal norms, leaving audiences with philosophical contemplations on their choices and beliefs while applauding self-determination and the pursuit of contentment. Roger-McKeever’s raw emotion energized the story’s authenticity in a performance pushing traditional theater’s limits and challenging viewers to question their principles.

Fingers & Spoons: The Ins and Outs of an Open Marriage

Written and performed by Pascale Roger-McKeever
Directed by Austin Pendelton
Assistant Director David Lavine
Musical Score by Tanya Tomkins
Scenic & Lighting Design by Josh Iacovelli
Production Manager Josh Iacovelli
Assistant Production Manager Charles Cassano
Public Relations by Skollar PR/Elizabeth Skollar
Darren Lee Cole, Producing Artistic Director of SoHo Playhouse

SoHo Playhouse

15 Vandam St.
New York, NY 10013

For information, calendar, and tickets, go to
Runtime is about 80 minutes with no intermission
Adult themes and language
This limited New York run continues through June 2.

Readers may also enjoy our reviews of Uncle Vanya at the Vivian Beaumont Theater at Lincoln Center, Still at the Daryl Roth TheaterLas Borinqueñas at the Ensemble Studio TheatreSally and Tom at the Public TheaterLempicka at the Longacre Theatre, and The Who’s Tommy.

Fingers & Spoons: The Ins and Outs of an Open Marriage


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